Asmi
Are they people or just a number?
You see, numbers are tricky, data is tricky. More importantly, data is dehumanising. Add sexuality and intimacy to this and the waters get even murkier. Maybe it’s good to leave a few things unaffected by too much data. Maybe we do not want to talk about data and sexuality. Maybe we instead want to talk about why data around gender and sexuality must not be recorded, and instead, maybe focus on why we should honour every kind of sexual preference which is within the purview of the safe and consensual.
By Asmi
May 15, 2021
BDSM Play – Performance and Beyond
Just like sex can be happy, sad, awkward, angry and so many other emotions, rather than the mere act of pounding, so is BDSM.
By Asmi
September 4, 2018
Coming Out as a Kinkster in Public
Will I write openly about what is or is not done, what is or is not meaningful when it comes to sexuality? Yes. Will I talk about BDSM and kink as a way of life, despite it being taboo for discussion? Yes, I will talk about BDSM and kink, and many other things as well, but I will not evangelise for them.
By Asmi
April 1, 2019
Do we dare?
Exploring sexuality is innovative in itself. What does that mean? Well at the outset, the very fact that we are willing to explore our bodies, their sexual expression, their ability to experience pleasure in so many different ways, and that we go beyond social norms is groundbreaking in itself.
By Asmi
August 3, 2020
From ‘I wish I knew!’ to ‘Is it right to tell them this?’
I wish my elders had told me about more than just bleeding when they talked about menstruation. I wish they…
By Asmi
Homes away from home – My experiences with the BDSM community
Home is usually the place where we begin exploring all aspects of life. In India, one area that is often…
By Asmi
How much support is enough?
In the middle of this pandemic, can one seek sexual support in the form of a hook up with one’s best friend, ‘just because’? Is it redefining boundaries, is it sympathy sex, is it simple indulgence, or is it something that one or both might later resent?
By Asmi
November 2, 2020
How much support is enough?
This article was originally published here. This article not based on any studies I know of, but then I know…
By Asmi
January 3, 2022
Is BDSM Just a New Age Fad and the Latest ‘In Thing’?
BDSM has been existent in discussion all the way from the time of the Marquis de Sade. However, the only thing that ’Fifty Shades of Grey’ seems to have done is shine the spotlight on a lifestyle that has existed and been judged for quite some time now.
By Asmi
December 3, 2018
Is Privacy Merely An Illusion To Be Rejected?
Is there anything about my sexuality that is private anymore? What happened to the unspoken rule of not discussing one’s sexual life in the open? What happened to the sleazy jokes and the complete silence around sexuality that I remember from the previous generation?
By Asmi
September 2, 2019
It’s not ‘just’ play!
Play is not only about cocks, balls, vaginas, paddles, or anything that happens between two consenting adults in the bedroom. It’s also about what goes on in a masochist’s mind before they submit to a cane, or a whip, and before they orgasm from the pain.
By Asmi
December 1, 2021
John Norman’s series of Gorean fiction and his representation of sexual slavery
My formative years in BDSM[1]were heavily influenced by a series of books called Chronicles of Gor written by an author…
By Asmi
Kinky Sex, Does it Always Have To Be Penetrative?
Combine sexuality, not sex, with LGBT, Polyamory, and BDSM and there’s a vast array of non-penetrative arousal, activity and sexual frameworks.
By Asmi
November 1, 2018
Maybe age is more than just a number? My discovery of my sexuality and sexual preferences over the years
Age is not just a number, like it is often said to be. It is a lot combined together. It is about grace, it is about exposure, it is about knowledge, it is about the ability to fight back. And yet, in endless other ways, age IS just a number.
By Asmi
Movie Review: Delta of Venus
Lawrence may have given Elena a world and a voice. But it was she who chose to delve into the unknown world of sexuality. It was she who chose to see the beauty and the richness of pleasure within communities of sex workers, soldiers, the elite, all alike. She alone chose to discern as well as reconcile love, as we commonly seem to know it, with a life in which she is capable of many loves.
By Asmi
February 3, 2020