A digital magazine on sexuality in the Global South: We are working towards cultivating safe, inclusive, and self-affirming spaces in which all individuals enjoy agency and dignity in expressing as well as experiencing their selves without fear, judgement, and shame.

The I Column

Redefining Femininity

Surrounded mostly by women while growing up, and even now, my idea of femininity looks like masculinity and femininity combined. Or, at least, the idea of what ‘masculine’ and ‘feminine’ means in a largely patriarchal society. Gender roles were flipped for the most part in our household, as my mother worked as well as took…
A photograph of the author, Di Sands

Tomboy Femininity

When I finally came out to myself at age 16 and made it to a free queer youth space, I couldn’t wait to be accepted among folks who didn’t play by society’s heterosexist rules of masculine and feminine as polar opposites.
Two dandelion flowers in a glass vase on a pink background.

A ‘girly’ feminist

Desiring motherhood meant veering into a more ‘girly’ territory, a notion that I had simultaneously been fighting and trying to embrace since childhood. I had understood that to be a feminist I had to be independent, be wary of men, dislike families and relationships.
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