A digital magazine on sexuality in the Global South

The I Column

A photograph of the author, Di Sands

Tomboy Femininity

When I finally came out to myself at age 16 and made it to a free queer youth space, I couldn’t wait to be accepted among folks who didn’t play by society’s heterosexist rules of masculine and feminine as polar opposites.
Two dandelion flowers in a glass vase on a pink background.

A ‘girly’ feminist

Desiring motherhood meant veering into a more ‘girly’ territory, a notion that I had simultaneously been fighting and trying to embrace since childhood. I had understood that to be a feminist I had to be independent, be wary of men, dislike families and relationships.
A photograph of two individual’s hands, from their forearms. One of the individuals is clasping the others’ hand in theirs.

How much support is enough?

In the middle of this pandemic, can one seek sexual support in the form of a hook up with one’s best friend, ‘just because’? Is it redefining boundaries, is it sympathy sex, is it simple indulgence, or is it something that one or both might later resent?
A photograph of differently coloured cloths hanging from poles in front of a train station in Mumbai, at night

The Last Local To Vashi

I gave myself the freedom to choose. And I chose to re-examine my assumptions. Maybe it was possible to ask strange men for directions without being afraid of seeming vulnerable. Maybe I could plan my outfit without bothering about the fact that I would be travelling on public transport.
An image of a DIY candle jar with a jute ribbon and a chalk tied around it

Do we dare?

Exploring sexuality is innovative in itself. What does that mean? Well at the outset, the very fact that we are willing to explore our bodies, their sexual expression, their ability to experience pleasure in so many different ways, and that we go beyond social norms is groundbreaking in itself.

An open letter to a former friend

(Tread gently. This article contains material on sexual assault) Dear A, I don’t know why I’m writing this. Maybe it will help declutter my mind. ***  We met in 2013, by chance, at your university campus. Looking back, my first impression of you is in stark contrast to how I think of you today. I…
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