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Marriage

Black and white image of a woman sitting in what seems like a waiting area. Three people can be seen sitting behind her

Brushstrokes: Singlehood and Sexuality

Alankrita Singh brings us a sparse and evocative series of photographs of women out in the world, by themselves. With a quiet defiance, it depicts women interacting with the world, at leisure, resisting the socio-cultural negativity they face when not under the care of men.
Four illustrations on a light blue background of a woman’s silhouette wearing a pink cape in different, traditionally masculine poses.

Prescriptions of Proper

Performance and ‘proper’ go hand in hand because every performance has rules and prescriptions, so you can tell whether it’s a good performance or not, whether it’s skilled or not. Otherwise, it appears, you can’t understand or appreciate performance – or know if you’re doing it right!
Two dandelion flowers in a glass vase on a pink background.

A ‘girly’ feminist

Desiring motherhood meant veering into a more ‘girly’ territory, a notion that I had simultaneously been fighting and trying to embrace since childhood. I had understood that to be a feminist I had to be independent, be wary of men, dislike families and relationships.
A drawing of a face with closed eyes. The face has been coloured with pink, blue, black, mustard, yellow and red crayons.

TOGETHER, ALONE

It wasn’t that she had never heard of homosexuality; but, in her imagination, gay men and women were an exotic species, not real people who could, perchance, be fellow passengers on a bus, fellow shoppers at a mall, or a fellow beginner in a meditation class.
A screenshot of the video. On the left side is an image of the mother, and on the right, the words- It’s Okay in white font colour are visible

Video: It’s OK Pammi!

The film begins with the mother’s dilemma around her daughter’s refusal to be ‘normal’ and marry a ‘decent boy’. As the story unfolds, we see the mother invite a ‘suitable boy’ for dinner on the same evening as the daughter’s partner is coming home to meet the family.
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Editorial: Risk and Sexuality

In our mid-month issue, we add context to our perceptions of and dealings with risk in our day-to-day lives. Collating and interpreting responses we received on a survey taken by small group of random individuals, Shikha Aleya looks at the transactions around risk foregrounded on the interplay of our location on the axes of gender and sexual identity, disability status, belief systems, and availability of support, amongst others.
Two golden-coloured band rings atop a dictionary page zoomed in on the word ‘marriage’. Above that, the definition of the word ‘marrano’.

Marriage as Risk

So, what are the risks in a marriage? Well, the first and the most obvious one is that you don’t know if the partner you’ve chosen or has been chosen for you will make you happy. In the Indian context, even if they do make you happy, the family might not be too thrilled about the match.

Review: The Last Summer

Last weekend, after a very hectic week, I was looking for a light and easy movie to watch and came across “The Last Summer”. The movie was nominated for the Teen Choice Award for Choice Summer Movies 2019 and is set in Chicago. It tracks the lives of several young people over their final summer…

Video Page: Eligible Bachelorette

Going on a first date with someone one has never met can be a fraught experience, especially if it is with a view to finding a marriage partner! What will happen? Will it go well? How to tell whether it’s working or if there is any potential for the future? Watch what goes on in…
Picture showing a group of women carrying water

नई राजनीतिक अर्थव्यवस्था में प्रवास, जेंडर और पहचान

आज के समय में जब विश्व में एक स्थान से दूसरे स्थान पर जाने की घटनाएँ बढ़ी हैं और सामाजिक मान्यताओं में भी बदलाव आया है, ऐसे में केवल विवाह ही, महिलाओं के एक जगह से दूसरी जगह प्रवास करने का एकमात्र कारण नहीं रह गया है।
picture of a group of young girls posing together, in rural India

वर्ग, जाति और विकल्प

हमें इस तरह से ढाला गया है कि तथाकथित 'विकल्प' जो हमारे संबंधों को परिभाषित करते हैं, वे भी हमारे लिए हुए विकल्प नहीं बल्कि समाज द्वारा सृजित हैं। हालाँकि, जैसा कि हमने देखा है, इन सभी चुनौतियों के बावजूद, महिलाएँ, जब वे खुद को व्यक्तियों के रूप में महत्वपूर्ण मानने लगती हैं, तो वे अपने परिवेश और परिवार के सदस्यों के साथ बातचीत करने की रणनीति तैयार करती हैं।
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Editorial: Choice and Sexuality

Choices are also influenced by our milieu, by socio-cultural norms, by the laws and strictures that operate to regulate what we may and may not do. Lest this makes it seem that we are mere puppets triggered by internal whimsy and simultaneously constrained by external forces, our contributors show that this is not so.
picture of a group of young girls posing together, in rural India
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Class, Caste and Choices

Choices about life, relationships and desires are all defined based on socio-economic background, caste, class, gender and sexuality. When these young girls found a comfortable and safe space, they openly talked about their desires and experiences and how they negotiated their existing environments in order to pursue their desires.
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