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Maybe age is more than just a number?  My discovery of my sexuality and sexual preferences over the years
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Age is not just a number, like it is often said to be. It is a lot combined together. It is about grace, it is about exposure, it is about knowledge, it is about the ability to fight back. And yet, in endless other ways, age IS just a number.

By Asmi
March 1, 2021
Maybe age is more than just a number?  My discovery of my sexuality and sexual preferences over the years
How much support is enough?
A photograph of two individual’s hands, from their forearms. One of the individuals is clasping the others’ hand in theirs.

In the middle of this pandemic, can one seek sexual support in the form of a hook up with one’s best friend, ‘just because’? Is it redefining boundaries, is it sympathy sex, is it simple indulgence, or is it something that one or both might later resent?

By Asmi
November 2, 2020
How much support is enough?
Gerald’s Game – A Story Of Resilience In The Face Of Metaphorical And Emotional Bondage

This movie had instantly called out to me because the book had made a huge impression many years ago when I was going through a Stephen King phase and consuming as many of his novels as I could. It is a story of resilience where a woman had to rescue herself from a dangerous situation of metaphorical and emotional bondage as well as the physical and sexual kind.

By ElsaMarie D'Silva
April 1, 2020
Gerald’s Game – A Story Of Resilience In The Face Of Metaphorical And Emotional Bondage
Brushstrokes: Healthy Relationships

Just as there are diverse ways of expressing and experiencing one’s sexuality, pleasure, too, is experienced in multiple forms and through multiple practices in each relationship.

By Curated Content
February 3, 2020
Brushstrokes: Healthy Relationships
Pleasure and Sexuality – What Is Beyond?
Handcuffs and heels

Over the years, my understanding of pleasure has changed. However, much of it is thanks to external inputs. It is thanks to people of all gender identities sharing how they feel pleasure in different ways.

By Asmi
February 3, 2020
Pleasure and Sexuality – What Is Beyond?
When Pleasure And Pain Are Confused With Basic Rights
Picture of hands tied

Though I come from a very conservative family, being open about female masturbation and watching porn didn’t seem to bother me. Yes, people have oohed and aahed at me for being so. I am still the same, proudly.

By Micky Nair
December 2, 2019
When Pleasure And Pain Are Confused With Basic Rights
Sex Toys? Yes, But No One Should Know
Picture of handcuffs, a common sex toy

When I first decided to cater to the sex-toy related needs of the Indian market, I knew one thing for sure: the biggest concern for me to address would be privacy.

By Raj Armani
September 2, 2019
Sex Toys? Yes, But No One Should Know
Of ‘Kinkfests’ And Forbidden Fantasies: The Subversive Potential of Erotic Fanfiction
Still from the popular show Supernatural

In a society where queer sexuality had been demonised in not just mainstream fiction but also mainstream culture, the erotic fanfiction that emerged out of kinkfests became an important source of queer sex-positivity.

By Rohini Banerjee
July 15, 2019
Of ‘Kinkfests’ And Forbidden Fantasies: The Subversive Potential of Erotic Fanfiction
From Judy Blume To The Sexy Internet: What Counts As Erotica?
Illustrations of multiple lips wearing various shades of red lipstick

I think the best thing we can do as we take this conversation forward is to consider this multifaceted breadth of desire as erotica; to include and not exclude in our definitions, and to accept desire wherever it lives, and in whatever form.

By Richa Kaul Padte
July 1, 2019
From Judy Blume To The Sexy Internet: What Counts As Erotica?
Why it is Important To Not Include Everything in the Queer Bracket
Silk black gloves, along with a pair of heels and handcuffs

I personally feel that any cause, specially one like kink that is in its nascent stages, needs its own space to grow, to affect enough people, before it merges with the larger cause of queerness, or sexuality, or even humanity.

By Asmi
May 1, 2019
Why it is Important To Not Include Everything in the Queer Bracket
Coming Out as a Kinkster in Public
Kinkster and BDSM: A red background, against which the dark silhouette of a figure

Will I write openly about what is or is not done, what is or is not meaningful when it comes to sexuality? Yes. Will I talk about BDSM and kink as a way of life, despite it being taboo for discussion? Yes, I will talk about BDSM and kink, and many other things as well, but I will not evangelise for them.

By Asmi
April 1, 2019
Coming Out as a Kinkster in Public
Kinky Sex, Does it Always Have To Be Penetrative?
A cucumber, a phallic symbol

Combine sexuality, not sex, with LGBT, Polyamory, and BDSM and there’s a vast array of non-penetrative arousal, activity and sexual frameworks.

By Asmi
November 1, 2018
Kinky Sex, Does it Always Have To Be Penetrative?
Free Porn and the Lives of ‘Porn People’ and their Fans: Jon Ronson’s ‘The Butterfly Effect’
the butterfly effect; cover image for jon ronson's podcast - the pornhub logo shaped as a butterfly

I found The Butterfly Effect fascinating; it was wonderful to see discussions around porn without a singular lens of exploitation, and to tease out the nuances of how porn can be helpful – as in the case of those who request customs – or not

By Vani Viswanathan
November 1, 2018
Free Porn and the Lives of ‘Porn People’ and their Fans: Jon Ronson’s ‘The Butterfly Effect’
My First Memories of Dabbling into online BDSM still Empower me after more than a Decade
A laptop screen with green static on it.

If not for these memories, my exploration of sexuality would perhaps have stopped a few years ago, when I was single for a long time and didn’t know if I could find someone like me.

By Asmi
April 16, 2018
My First Memories of Dabbling into online BDSM still Empower me after more than a Decade
Kink and Friendship
A red and white carnival eye mask.

My sexual desires may not be what certain people called ‘normal’ and I could not share this with my so called friends as I thought they would consider me weird. Surprisingly a woman in my hometown introduced me to the world of Kink. She was a regular housewife and with her for the first time I got to know what I actually needed and wanted and it went on for a good amount of time till I moved out of that place for many reasons.

By Sig
May 16, 2016
Kink and Friendship
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