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Fantasy and Sexuality

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The Editorial: Fantasy and Sexuality

Fantasy is make-believe. We make something up and then we believe it in order to make it exist. However, in some contexts, the make-believe is relegated to the realm of mere 'play’ (as opposed to the ‘real’), but there’s no denying that make-believing is a crux of human civilisation – children naturally play make-believe games that steer them in their growth, adults use the hypothetical in their thought to make everyday decisions, and both children and adults rely on fantastical stories and myths to construct a common meaning that contributes to creating the world as we know it.
Illustration of a woman with boy-cut hair sitting on a motorcycle. She is wearing tee shirt and jeans.

ड्रैग और क्रॉस ड्रेसिंग के कई रंग

निरंतर से ऐनी और नीलिमा द्वारा यह बात लगभग दो हफ्ते पहले गाँव पठा, ललितपुर जिला, महरौनी ब्लॉक के सूचना केंद्र की है। निरंतर में काम कर रही नीलिमा वहाँ सहजनी शिक्षा केंद्र[1] टीम के साथ असाक्षर और नव-साक्षर औरतों के साथ भाषा के बारे में सत्र कर रहीं थी। “सत्र के दौरान दो औरतों की सास…
Still from a title song of Hindi film 'Satyam shivam sundaram'. A woman wearing light yellow-coloured saree with no blouse is clutching her dupatta that is covering her head. She is singing a song at night under a tree with small purple flowers.

Reel Review: Desire and Conciliation in Raj Kapoor’s Satyam Shivam Sundaram

Satyam Shivam Sundaram (Truth, God, Beauty) is the story of Rupa (Zeenat Aman), an archetypical abhagan (wretched girl), whose misery begins at her birth when her mother dies. She is immediately declared an accursed child and is shunned by others. Later, a freak accident results in scalding oil splashing across one side of her face, leaving her permanently scarred. Nevertheless, she goes about her daily life – alone, yet content.
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The Curious Case of Eudaimonia: A Conte de Fée for Finding Your Way

Eudaimonia, ever the kind soul, made every effort to befriend her cousins who initially treated her as a pest. Maybe it was out of spite for the love Eudaimonia received from the elders in the house and that too which she often left in her wake, but before long her cousins turned their attention to her in ways so cruel, the light in Eudaimonia’s eyes began to wane and it would be a very long time before it shone through them again.
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बीडीएसएम, यौन सम्बन्ध, फैन्टसी, पोर्न, और यथार्थ

मैं एक लेखिका हूँ । बीडीएसएम (BDSM) के बारे में लिखती हूँ । एक दशक से ज़्यादा हो गया मुझे  इस जीवन शैली को जीते हुए। मैं विवाहित नहीं हूँ और भारत में रहती हूँ । मैं जानती हूँ कि आपके दिमाग में क्या तस्वीर बन रही है। छरहरी काया, सुतवाँ जिस्म, तने हुए स्तन,…
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Women’s Sexual Fantasies – the Latest Scientific Research

Dr Raj Persaud Consultant Psychiatrist Dr Jenny Bivona Clinical psychologist A team of psychologists led by a woman has uncovered some surprising findings on one of the most secret aspects of female sexual fantasy. While almost everyone has sexual fantasies, previous research into the subject has found between 31 and 62% of women have rape fantasies.…
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कल्पनाएँ – हमारा आनंद, हमारा मामला, हमारा अधिकार

जो वर्जित है उससे मन ही मन सोचकर ख़ुशी पाने के अलावा, यौन कल्पनाएँ हमें सुरक्षित रूप से खोज करने का और बिना किसी प्रतिबद्धता के, बिना किसी परिणाम की चिंता के, विभिन्न तरीकों से रहने और उनका आनंद लेने का मौका देती हैं। यह कुछ-कुछ ऐसा है जैसे हम बिना खाना बनाने की झंझट के, या बर्तन साफ़ करने या अपच और वज़न बढ़ने की चिंता के भी अपने मन की चीज़ खाने का मज़ा ले सकते है।
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Issue In Focus: Fantasies – Our Pleasure, Our Business, Our Right

Sexual fantasies allow us to conjure up worlds that we want to play with, but in reality, we may not really want. A fantasy is different from a wish. So people may have sexual fantasies about things that they may never act out – like having sex in front of a multitude of onlookers, or with a zebra, or a famous film star or the neighbour next door. And it’s all safe.
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The Girl Who Dreamt an Impossible Dream

The dream soon turned into an obsession, fuelled by my kind and supportive father who would’ve done the same for me no matter what I had decided to obsess over. Before I knew it, my whole life revolved around cricket. I had a room full of posters of men who played cricket, and a brain full of cricket facts and trivia. The posters covered every inch of my room. I remember picking up new ones every other week from the street-side sellers of Connaught Place in Delhi, and found one with every new issue of The Hindu’s sports magazine called Sports Star.
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Video Page: Li Chenxi Keeps Up the Fantasy by Renting a Boyfriend

Trying to live up to the expectations of those you care about isn't easy! Li Chenxi is 27 years old and has been facing pressure from her family to get married. She herself has no such desire and is fine with the way she lives; but to keep those she cares about happy she, like so many of us, finds a creative way to sustain her mum’s fantasy!
A pink-coloured vibrating penis ring.

Interview: Ute Pauline Wiemer on Lovetreats and Sex

Ute Pauline Wiemer, along with her partner Balaji, founded Lovetreats in Bangalore in 2015. Lovetreats is an online retail space and discussion forum for people to buy intimate sexual wellness and health products as well as exchange ideas and learn about topics such as sexuality and intimacy.
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Brushstrokes: Fantasy and Kink

No fantasy is wrong. Or sick. Or immoral. Just like good intentions are worthless unless they lead to fruitful actions, wicked fantasies aren’t wrong or sick unless they lead to wicked acts. And no, they don't have to. That is the point of kink.
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