Voices
What gets silenced today isn’t just what’s obscene – it’s what’s inconvenient. What doesn’t sell. What asks us to take sex seriously or differently.
Because we also understand and acknowledge the power of a single step forward, we decided to deep dive into working with sign languages for people who are deaf or hard of hearing and including them in the safe abortion rights dialogues.
Language itself is being plugged as a resource, to be shared with those who share similar politics, or if not, at least to move them along in that direction. And people who speak, think, love and live differently are targeted as “the other”.
Words weren’t always needed – we were content in each other’s quiet company, letting stillness speak. It took me years to realise that their home was my first classroom, and love was the language we spoke.
भाषा सिर्फ अभिव्यक्ति का माध्यम नहीं है, यह पहचान, संबंध और संघर्ष का भी ज़रिया है। भाषा सामाजिक संरचना, पहचान और सत्ता-संबंधों को दर्शाने का भी औज़ार है।
जब मैं इस बात पर विचार करता हूं कि मैंने क्या सक्रिय रूप से दबा दिया था और लगातार भूलने की कोशिश की थी, तो मुझे एहसास हुआ कि मैं अपने बारे में क्या सोचता हूं, इसे परिभाषित करने में भाषा कितनी ज़रूरी थी। मौखिक दुर्व्यवहार और धौंसियाना बर्ताव ने गैर-मानक व्यवहार, समलैंगिकता और क्वियरनेस के साथ मेरी पहचान बना ली।
Gender has perplexed me throughout life. I never quite understood femininity or masculinity much – I mostly lived in what other people thought I was. One thing I did know always is that I never, ever, want to be seen as a man. But can I still hold masculinity?
…we must also address men’s relationships with their spouses, other men, women and children in the community, and importantly, their own emotional selves to transform fatherhood. Therefore, engaging with men as fathers must involve a holistic understanding of their socialisation, emotional world, and position within patriarchal structures.
In the fast-paced digital world of clickbaits and instant gratification, where you can be ‘cancelled’ or ‘trending’ within the same minute, the very act of men talking to other men about alternative masculinities, has the ability to disrupt hierarchies of power, to disrupt the algorithm, to disrupt patriarchy.
I have dealt with having a non-masculine body since the time I was a teenager. I have questioned my sexuality and how it interacted with my non-masculine body.
Unlike many trans-masculine people who identified as lesbians/tomboys/butch pre-transitioning, I refused to abandon my ‘lesbian’ identity post-transitioning. A negotiation that took time to flourish.
क्वीयर मर्दानगी एक वैकल्पिक मर्दानगी है जो पितृसत्तात्मक और विषमलैंगिक मानदंडों को अक्सर चुनौती देती है और मर्दानगी के स्वरूप को अधिक समावेशी बनाती है।
पितृसत्तात्मक समाज में, पुरुषत्व एक विशेष प्रकार के व्यवहार के रूप में प्रकट होता है, जैसे नियंत्रण करना और हावी होना, अक्सर हिंसक तरीकों से।
Even her talking to other men elicits a growl from these men, and it’s all supposed to be okay because they’re billionaires and 6’5 feet tall or something, oh and did I mention the abs?
Men perform an identity that they don’t fully understand. The pressure to appear strong while feeling the full range of emotions that they cannot express creates a hollow inside, creates a quiet dissonance, a loneliness that is rarely spoken of but deeply felt.