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Author: Asmi

How much support is enough?

This article was originally published here. This article not based on any studies I know of, but then I know so little. However, in my experience, anyone who is sexually marginalised, or practices a form of sexuality that isn’t deemed ‘mainstream’, is more prone to mental health issues, than their straight, monogamous, vanilla, let’s-have-sex-once-every-night counterparts.…
An illustration of handcuffs in dull shades.

It’s not ‘just’ play!

Play is not only about cocks, balls, vaginas, paddles, or anything that happens between two consenting adults in the bedroom. It’s also about what goes on in a masochist’s mind before they submit to a cane, or a whip, and before they orgasm from the pain.

शायद उम्र सिर्फ एक क्रमसंख्या ही नहीं होती? अपनी यौनिकता और अनेक वर्षों के अपने यौन रुझानों का बोध   

2006 में जब पहले-पहल मैं दिल्ली आई, उस समय मेरी उम्र 22 वर्ष की थी और मुझे यौनिक व्यंग्य या कटाक्षों के बारे में बिलकुल भी जानकारी नहीं थी। उन दिनों एफ़एम रेडियो पर ‘Fropper’ नाम की एक मशहूर डेटिंग/’दोस्ती’ करने की साइट का विज्ञापन चला करता था, और मैंने एक बार कॉल सेंटर की…
A photograph of a smartphone on a wooden surface. The sides of the phone are black, and the display has a white background with a kissing-face emoticon in the centre and two red heart emoticons on either side.

Are they people or just a number?

You see, numbers are tricky, data is tricky. More importantly, data is dehumanising. Add sexuality and intimacy to this and the waters get even murkier. Maybe it’s good to leave a few things unaffected by too much data. Maybe we do not want to talk about data and sexuality. Maybe we instead want to talk about why data around gender and sexuality must not be recorded, and instead, maybe focus on why we should honour every kind of sexual preference which is within the purview of the safe and consensual.

सहयोग कितना हो?

ये लेख किसी रिपोर्ट या रिसर्च पर आधारित नहीं है, लेकिन सच ये है,  कि हम जानते भी तो बहुत ही थोड़ा हैं।  ऐसे में सिर्फ रिसर्च या रिपोर्ट्स पर निर्भर न रह कर मानव अनुभव अत्यधिक को महत्त्वपूर्ण हो जाता है। जैसे मेरा अनुभव ये कहता है, कि वे सभी लोग  जो या तो…

डर के आगे जीत है!

अपनी यौनिकता को समझने की कोशिश,अपने आप में एक नए किस्म का प्रयास है। इस बात का मतलब क्या है? आइये इस नूतनता को समझते हैं। सबसे पहले तो यही, कि हम अपने शरीर, उसकी यौन अभिव्यक्ति, और अलग-अलग तरीकों से आनंद का अनुभव करने की उसकी क्षमता को समझना चाहते हैं। इतना भर भी…
A photograph of two individual’s hands, from their forearms. One of the individuals is clasping the others’ hand in theirs.

How much support is enough?

In the middle of this pandemic, can one seek sexual support in the form of a hook up with one’s best friend, ‘just because’? Is it redefining boundaries, is it sympathy sex, is it simple indulgence, or is it something that one or both might later resent?