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Tinder-ing Lessons!

Am riding here for six months now,

Built intimacies, connections and general know-how 😉


Age, Colour, Class, Caste – I presumed was no bar,

Sapio bios, cheesy taglines were on my radar,


Honestly, there weren’t any specific rules for the game,

Consent basics, a little humour, but no stigma, no shame.


Sizzled some and swiped quite a few,

Got blows, kept some on toes, some even came as a bolt from the blue,


Shared mutual admiration sessions,

And learnt some critical lessons,


Flaunted  investment in lingerie and enquired about the talk of the town,

Expected ‘correct’ answers and practised clear differentials in both verb and noun,


Literally got impressed by fluent lingo and splashed denims,

Artistic body art, flashy tags and menims!


Felt a constant pressure to “outsmart” the fellow swipe,

And feared “rejection” for not having read the book of his type!


Complementarity was expected not on sunsigns but on flavours of wine,

Can you imagine this being a reason for discarding six out of nine?


Hey, hey, was it really me who thought was bar-free?

Who used to yell about on the standards set by thee???

Article written by:

Shruti Batra has been working with Jagori since 2011. Currently, as Manager - resource and knowledge management team, she is contributing to writing project proposals, community action research initiatives undertaken by Jagori and compilation of toolkits on the issues of women's safety, rights and access to essential services and ending violence against women. She represents the organisation in various networks and forums on urban issues in the city and shares inputs from a gender perspective. She has also contributed to policy research and advocacy initiatives as a part of CEDAW and SDG processes. She has pursued Bachelors in Economics from Delhi University and Masters in Development Studies from Ambedkar University, Delhi. She is a poetry enthusiast and writes poetry on feminism, resistance and peace.