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An abstractly made illustration of a landscape with mountains depicted in yellow, and below, a blend of green-blue to depict oceans. The texture of the colours evokes waves as well as ice. On the left is a paper boat, yellow-white with blue-green hues, carrying a red rose-like flower in the middle.

Swipe me left, I’m Dalit

Dalit women are primarily viewed as victims and survivors of various kinds of violence. Reification of the Dalit identity has led to the boxing of our existence whose dimensions are solely defined by the savarna (dominant caste) gaze. Our self-assertions of identity are commodified to create a warped limiting of our lives, creating an image that is voiceless in the minds of our potential suitors. We are not seen as being capable of desire, love or happiness; we don’t exist as individuals outside of violence.

Making the most of our lives

I realised that we are constantly thinking about the future and our life as we age, and are afraid of facing the world alone. The uncertainty of future events, of which there are many combinations, makes us feel insecure and vulnerable.

Editorial: Dating and Sexuality

Searching for and then finding and connecting with others, dating, and then possibly, romancing them, are activities and experiences that do not occur in isolation – they are inter-connected with the rest of our lives, with what’s going on in other areas, and with what’s happening in the external environment, nowadays being a case in…

Desirability and Caste

When the pressure started to mount on Surekha, from all corners, to get married, she thought of reconsidering Kishore’s proposal which was made a year or two before. She had not accepted the proposal at the time as she was in her early twenties and she felt she was too young to be getting married.…

Of heart image and heart powering

Body image, body shaming, fat shaming. Familiar. Heart image, heart shaming, self-shaming. Expanding the same concept. You know how the body piece goes. If you don’t conform to the current, socio-cultural standards and stereotypes of ‘attractive’, you’re f@*k#d. It starts at home, it progresses in school, you’re enveloped in it for the rest of your…

Interview – Abha Khetarpal

Abha Khetarpal is a disability rights activist and self-advocate, writer, motivational speaker, and President of Cross the Hurdles, a resource centre for online counselling, information, education and mentoring, focussing on issues of disability. Abha has lived experience of mobility issues and the challenges that arise as a consequence. On the subject of dating, Abha says…

Dating in the Time of Social Distancing

At first glance, dating and social distancing appear to be oxymorons. But, as the last few weeks have shown us, that isn’t necessarily the case. We have adapted to the limitations of our time, figuring out how to connect with others in a time when we cannot physically meet. While we cannot replicate a physical…

Review: The Last Summer

Last weekend, after a very hectic week, I was looking for a light and easy movie to watch and came across “The Last Summer”. The movie was nominated for the Teen Choice Award for Choice Summer Movies 2019 and is set in Chicago. It tracks the lives of several young people over their final summer…

Video Page: Eligible Bachelorette

Going on a first date with someone one has never met can be a fraught experience, especially if it is with a view to finding a marriage partner! What will happen? Will it go well? How to tell whether it’s working or if there is any potential for the future? Watch what goes on in…
Cover Photo: Pixabay

संदिग्ध महिलाएँ 

मैं उत्तरी दिल्ली के एक कमर्शियल कॉम्प्लेक्स में एक छोटे तंग से ऑफिस में हूँ। यहाँ बाहर किसी भी कंपनी या व्यक्ति का नाम नहीं लिखा है। मैं एक लैपटाप कम्प्युटर पर आँखें गढ़ाए एक विडियो को देखने और समझने की कोशिश में लगी हूँ। विडियो में दिखाई दे रहे दृश्य धुंधले हैं और कुछ…
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