The I Column
It’s Time to Take Back Our Minds!
Audre Lorde once said, “Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”
By Rituparna Borah
February 3, 2017
It’s not ‘just’ play!
Play is not only about cocks, balls, vaginas, paddles, or anything that happens between two consenting adults in the bedroom. It’s also about what goes on in a masochist’s mind before they submit to a cane, or a whip, and before they orgasm from the pain.
By Asmi
December 1, 2021
Is Privacy Merely An Illusion To Be Rejected?
Is there anything about my sexuality that is private anymore? What happened to the unspoken rule of not discussing one’s sexual life in the open? What happened to the sleazy jokes and the complete silence around sexuality that I remember from the previous generation?
By Asmi
September 2, 2019
Is BDSM Just a New Age Fad and the Latest ‘In Thing’?
BDSM has been existent in discussion all the way from the time of the Marquis de Sade. However, the only thing that ’Fifty Shades of Grey’ seems to have done is shine the spotlight on a lifestyle that has existed and been judged for quite some time now.
By Asmi
December 3, 2018
In Between Deadlines and Debriefs: On Friendships at Work
In those moments of doubt, when we wonder whether we can really make a difference in the world, it is often our work friends who remind us why we began.
By Nandhini Jaishankar
November 17, 2025
In Appreciation of Singlehood
Growing up, for me, has been about accepting that the loneliness and sadness woven into the fabric of my being do not go away with entering conventional arrangements like monogamous relationships or marriage.
By Siddhi Pandey
February 1, 2021
If you want safety, you must toil for it.
‘Take charge; build safe spaces for yourself.’ ‘Be the change you want to see.’ ‘Inclusion starts with I.’ My…
By Samarth Khanna
October 4, 2021
If the Internet Didn’t Exist
If the Internet didn’t exist, I believe I would be a highly insecure person. Don’t read that the wrong…
By Ragamalika Karthikeyan
July 1, 2015
I-Column: A Trip To The Ladies’
Remember Simone de Beauvoir said, one is not born a woman but rather becomes one? A trip to the ladies’…
By Shweta Krishnan
November 1, 2014
I Spent a Year in India and I Looked Ridiculous!
Despite the intervention of many well-meaning aunties and friends over cups of chai, I don’t think I was aware of how truly strange, let’s even say ridiculous, I looked at the time. Because although I was wearing kurtis nearly every day, I didn’t really understand the ‘rules’ of wearing kurtis.
By Annie McCarthy
August 2, 2016
I Recently Had Sex With A Girl
I am a 25-year-old cis woman and I recently had sex with another woman for the first time. It was new, it felt nice, but it just didn’t feel safe.
By Pallavi
April 1, 2020
I Column: Shades of Grey
Introduction: As this first-person account of Anita, a Devadasi in Maharashtra, Western India illustrates, issues of consent and violence/coercion cannot…
By Anita
February 1, 2014
I Column: I Can See Clearly Now
I knew that I was gay since time knows when. The society made me know. Be it my friend’s snarky…
By Guest Writer
January 1, 2014
I Column : Fiction and Sexuality
What is fiction? Is it born of reality? Or does it birth reality, reflecting it back at me until I see the things I do not see? Until I find the person that is me? Until I dance my horse dance under moon, under stars, in a room full of people who like horse dancing just as much as they like the swirly skirt and the pot-bellied person doing the Bhangra.
By Shikha Aleya
September 1, 2017
I COLUMN : FICTION AND SEXUALITY
Her eyes are open now, she looks at him. There is sadness there. “What my love? What happened?” he asks….
By Shikha Aleya
January 2, 2018