{"id":26705,"date":"2024-04-18T10:50:00","date_gmt":"2024-04-18T05:20:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak\/?p=26705"},"modified":"2024-04-18T11:45:28","modified_gmt":"2024-04-18T06:15:28","slug":"quick-bytes-with-abhishek-desai","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak\/quick-bytes-with-abhishek-desai\/","title":{"rendered":"Quick Bytes with Abhishek Desai"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>At <em>In Plainspeak<\/em>, we\u2019re always brainstorming about ways to engage with the great diversity you represent as readers, and to connect you to each other! This year, we\u2019ve added a short, almost micro feature, to our regular crop of articles. We call it, quite simply: <strong>Quick Bytes<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Quick Bytes is based on short responses to cue questions that we ask those who agree to participate in this micro feature.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Abhishek Desai gives us Quick Bytes on <strong>The Pandemic and Sexuality<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Abhishek says:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>One line to <strong>describe me:<\/strong> I&#8217;m a journalist turned storytelling &amp; communications specialist.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The <strong>word Sexuality<\/strong> brings to mind: Often we confuse sexuality for sexual orientation, but it is more than just about who I&#8217;m attracted to. It&#8217;s about<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>my gender and how I understand and present myself<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>my emotions<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>my physical, social and erotic feelings<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>I connect<\/strong> the <em>Pandemic and Sexuality<\/em> in these ways:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>The lack of access to sexual and reproductive health services like gynaecologists, ART and HRT had a severe impact on one\u2019s sexuality.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>The pandemic and lockdown isolation made recovery harder for people with sex or porn addiction because of a lack of support systems that enabled their recovery.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>On the other hand, the limited access to intimacy with others, made one discover true intimacy with oneself \u2013 as I did.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Self-affirming<\/strong> in this context for me: It meant truly exploring and understanding how gender functions, and my relationship with it, and then engaging in performing gender in new and hot self-pleasuring ways.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Something to think about as a <strong>last word<\/strong>: What would discovering personhood mean beyond one&#8217;s gender and sexuality?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><br><em>Put together by <a href=\"https:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak\/author\/radhika-chandiramani\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Radhika Chandiramani<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak\/author\/shikha-aleya\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Shikha Aleya<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-right\" style=\"font-size:12px\"><em>Cover Image: Photo courtesy of Abhishek Desai.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The pandemic and lockdown isolation made recovery harder for people with sex or porn addiction because of a lack of support systems that enabled their recovery.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":514,"featured_media":26706,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4399,4429],"tags":[4472,4494,4493,4470,2245,2315,4471,26,4495,367,616,2200,2199,1926,4435,99,68,25,2833],"class_list":{"0":"post-26705","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-quick-bytes","8":"category-the-pandemic-and-sexuality","9":"tag-4472","10":"tag-abhishek-desai","11":"tag-addiction","12":"tag-corona","13":"tag-coronavirus","14":"tag-covid","15":"tag-covid-19-2","16":"tag-gender","17":"tag-haiyya","18":"tag-identity","19":"tag-intimacy","20":"tag-lockdown","21":"tag-pandemic","22":"tag-personhood","23":"tag-quick-bytes","24":"tag-relationships","25":"tag-sex","26":"tag-sexualities","27":"tag-social-distancing"},"menu_order":0,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26705","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/514"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=26705"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26705\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":26758,"href":"https:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26705\/revisions\/26758"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/26706"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=26705"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=26705"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=26705"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}