{"id":21070,"date":"2021-04-05T09:26:42","date_gmt":"2021-04-05T03:56:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak\/?p=21070"},"modified":"2022-03-09T16:00:15","modified_gmt":"2022-03-09T10:30:15","slug":"voices-communication-a-path-to-vulnerability","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak\/voices-communication-a-path-to-vulnerability\/","title":{"rendered":"Communication: A Path to Vulnerability"},"content":{"rendered":"

Expressing vulnerability means allowing the real<\/em> you to come out. The person who has faults, past hurts, and worries about the future. And the person who has love, joy, and aspirations about what could be. When we are vulnerable, we are showing the world all of this: everything that has caused us to feel shame or embarrassment. Being vulnerable like this would also mean showing the world parts of ourselves we are proud of and happy with, even if people may judge those aspects of ourselves as \u2018silly\u2019.<\/p>\n

To expose ourselves requires fearlessness and determination but when we feel that it is going to assist in self-growth, we \u00a0would not hesitate in doing so. Of course, this depends on our comfort level and it may be easier to pour our heart out to certain people rather than others.<\/p>\n

When we don\u2019t feel safe enough to express the deepest parts of ourselves, then we close off those parts in our relationships. When we can share with someone ideas we are passionate about or things that are close to our heart and they don\u2019t immediately criticise us, we feel safer to share even more with them next time. When we make a fool of ourselves and they laugh with us and not at us, we are more comfortable to reveal even more of ourselves the next time. We start feeling that we are not alone, the world is full of people who are empathetic to us and have gone through similar situations.<\/p>\n

When we feel safe to express the deepest aspects of ourselves, the aspects that are hidden within us and yet are a special part of us, \u00a0we feel more confident, and free to be who we truly are. That\u2019s when we feel empowered. We start feeling free. Expressing who we truly are means we can stand by our values and beliefs and that might help us be more authentic and fulfilled. Well, what if we do not find the \u2018right\u2019person to talk to? I feel self-talk works too. If I am not able to find the \u2018right\u2019 person at a particular moment, the best person to talk to is myself. I go within myself, introspect and find that I am talking to my own self.<\/p>\n

I have a rule in my life: Whether I\u2019m right or wrong, I will express what\u2019s on my mind<\/em>. Now, it doesn\u2019t mean I express everything<\/em>. Sometimes, I simply don\u2019t say what\u2019s on my mind because it\u2019s not relevant to the discussion, or it\u2019s not important to me. But, when I feel the need to express something because it just has<\/em> to come out, I\u2019ll do so, despite knowing that I could be wrong.<\/p>\n

One area of life where many of us feel extremely vulnerable is sexuality. To open up regarding sexuality, to share deep feelings, to allow oneself to be penetrated or seen naked, to expose tender parts of oneself like desire, fantasy and insecurity, to allow oneself to want and desire and to be fulfilled \u2013 these things make us vulnerable. We must all care for ourselves and be discerning about when and where and with whom we show our cards\u2026but those who can hold our emotional and sexual vulnerability are out there, and we can find them and be all of who we are.<\/p>\n

The path lies in communication. If we can find even one person who resonates with us and lends us an ear, we can explore those parts of us that are kept hidden, so that we can process and release negative thoughts and beliefs about ourselves. The more we practice vulnerability, the more our life changes.<\/p>\n

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We must all care for ourselves and be discerning about when and where and with whom we show our cards\u2026but those who can hold our emotional and sexual vulnerability are out there, and we can find them and be all of who we are.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":333,"featured_media":21116,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1,8,2715],"tags":[1795,2675,1298,2722,2685,996,2723,684,71,99,2724,193,2716],"class_list":{"0":"post-21070","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-categories","8":"category-voices","9":"category-vulnerability-and-sexuality","10":"tag-authenticity","11":"tag-communication","12":"tag-desires","13":"tag-embarrassment","14":"tag-emotions","15":"tag-fantasy","16":"tag-fearlessness","17":"tag-insecurity","18":"tag-love","19":"tag-relationships","20":"tag-safe","21":"tag-shame","22":"tag-vulnerability-and-sexuality"},"menu_order":172,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21070","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/333"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=21070"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21070\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":23021,"href":"https:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21070\/revisions\/23021"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/21116"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=21070"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=21070"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=21070"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}