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It comes in different shapes and sizes. And has grown to embrace individual choices and social realities<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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“Someone asked me who wears the pants in your house. I said we all do,\u201d laughs Delhi-based knitwear designer Jyotsna Gokhale.<\/p>\n

Gokhale is one of 12 people from across three generations who live in four houses of an apartment building reconstructed to accommodate the entire\u00a0family.\u00a0<\/strong><\/a>She is divorced, and lives with her son and partner in one house; in the other three houses live her parents, two sisters and their families. Gokhale has a cordial relationship with her ex-husband while her former mother-in-law visits each time she does pop-ups of the knitwear she sells.<\/p>\n

When Mumbai-based architect Tushar Mistry decided to come out as gay, he somehow did not feel the need to tell his parents outright, or give his relationship a name. \u201cThey understood,\u201d he says. Today, his parents, from a small town in Gujarat, invite his partner Ekant Singh to perform a\u00a0puja<\/em>\u00a0usually done only by a heterosexual, married couple. The family\u00a0pujari<\/em>\u00a0initially refused to conduct the ritual with the two of them, but later he came around. \u201cWhen he realised how I care for the family much like a\u00a0bahu<\/em>\u00a0would, he blessed us together,\u201d says Singh, an interior designer, who works with his partner. It\u2019s not about education or big-city living, but about being open, he says. \u201cTushar\u2019s parents are very accepting of the fact that society has changed. His father once told his mother, \u2018We have lived our lives the way we wanted to, now it\u2019s their time to live theirs the way they want to\u2019.\u201d<\/p>\n

To read more: originally published in the Hindu<\/a><\/p>\n

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