{"id":10093,"date":"2016-10-17T11:06:58","date_gmt":"2016-10-17T05:36:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak?p=10093"},"modified":"2019-03-20T13:53:12","modified_gmt":"2019-03-20T08:23:12","slug":"editorial-parenting-and-sexuality","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.tarshi.net\/inplainspeak\/editorial-parenting-and-sexuality\/","title":{"rendered":"The Editorial: Parenting and Sexuality"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\u201cThe rhino\u2019s skin is thick and tough,
\nAnd yet this skin is soft enough
\nThat baby rhinos always sense,
\nA love enormous and intense.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u2013 The Rhinoceros <\/em>by researcher Harry Harlow<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

How much do our parents teach us about ourselves? If science and psychology have proved that sexuality and sexual development grow and bloom in the course of our lives along with our other faculties, what role do our parents have in what we learn about sexuality? And, as parents, surely there\u2019s so much we learn about sexuality, ourselves, and everything else from essaying the role? To parent is to learn how to teach what we already know, and to be able to receive more than a few surprise lessons ourselves.<\/p>\n

The Issue in Focus for the month asks, what, exactly, we believe children to be innocent of. Shohini Ghosh examines the question<\/a> through examples from art history and photography.<\/p>\n

Alankaar Sharma counts the ways in which comprehensive sexuality education can help in countering child sexual abuse<\/a>, while Kristin Francoeur and Surabhi Srivastava list book resources and the reasons why they help parents and children communicate about sexuality<\/a> in affirming ways.<\/p>\n

In the Brushstrokes section, Canadian parent Wendy Tsao takes over-sexualised dolls, removes their makeup and changes their overly done-up hair to turn them into role models from real life<\/a>.<\/p>\n

On the Video Page, Pappu and his papa<\/a> have conversations on many things sexuality in what is touted as India\u2019s first (and undoubtedly popular) fictional web series on sexuality education. The TARSHI Corner features Parent Circle\u2019s clipbook<\/a> on comprehensive sexuality education.<\/p>\n

We also republish Mad Momma\u2019s review<\/a> of TARSHI\u2019s The Yellow Book: A Parent\u2019s Guide to Sexuality Education.<\/em><\/p>\n

Sheba Remy Kharbanda will move her reader with the story of herself, her mother and her grandmother in her piece about why it isn\u2019t right<\/a> to consider motherhood the essence of womanhood. Meghna Bohidar wonders why we don\u2019t extend the logic of consent from romance and sex to parents and familial relationships<\/a> when it evidently needs to be. Amidst all this, Shikha Aleya surveys the many shades<\/a> in which parenting and sexuality come together.<\/p>\n

The TARSHI Corner for the month features Parent Circle’s digital\u00a0clipbook on sexuality education<\/a>.<\/p>\n

In the mid-month issue, Venu Arora reflects on the choices she\u2019s made in bringing up her daughter<\/a> in the most honest way she could \u2013 from telling her the story of her birth to showing her a sanitary pad, there have been a few thing she herself has learned along the way. Ramya Anand is left befuddled by some of the problematic ideas<\/a> her children seem to be learning from the world around them, but she won\u2019t let that stop her from teaching them the best she can.<\/p>\n

Tanya Singh gathers her observations about queering parenting<\/a> from her conversation with queer feminist Rituparna Borah who has been a significant part of her friend\u2019s child\u2019s life.<\/p>\n

Zoya Achanta feels privileged to have the parents and home she does, but wonders what it would be like if she identified as queer<\/a>. In a bonus article, Swapna Vasudevan Thampi narrates her tales of everyday harassment in public transport<\/a>.<\/p>\n

The Hindi section has a translation of Sheba Remy Kharbanda\u2019s article<\/a> about womanhood and motherhood from our last issue, and we also publish a translation of Shilpa Phadke\u2019s article<\/a> on feminist parenting from our mid-November 2015 issue.<\/p>\n

The Blog Roll features articles about why the Indian government must rethink its new bill on surrogacy<\/a>, and South Korea\u2019s plans to provide lifelong parenting education<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t forget: our Tweetathon on Parenting is on Friday, the 21st<\/sup> of October<\/strong>, from 12 noon to 1 p.m. IST<\/strong>, where we\u2019re going to discuss comprehensive sexuality education (CSE) and the role parents play in conveying accurate sexuality information and messages, resources parents have found useful, challenges they\u2019ve faced in communicating with children about sexuality, dealing with online and offline abuse, social media, and more.<\/p>\n

We\u2019ll use the hashtag\u00a0#TARSHIChat<\/strong> in every tweet, and #CSE<\/strong>, #parenting<\/strong>, #sexuality<\/strong> and #TalkSexuality<\/strong> as appropriate. Join us!<\/p>\n

Until then, happy reading!<\/p>\n

The TARSHI Team<\/p>\n

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Cover image from Daytime Visions<\/em> by Isol<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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